How to Write Lyrics About Life Situations

How to Write Lyrics About Overcoming Obstacles

How to Write Lyrics About Overcoming Obstacles

You want songs that lift people up and sound like therapy with a killer chorus. You want lines that make listeners feel seen and give them enough grit to text their ex or to finally get out of bed. Writing about overcoming obstacles does not mean writing a motivational poster. It means choosing the right voice, the right images, and the right emotional arc so the listener goes from stuck to moving by the second chorus.

Quick Interruption: Ever wondered how huge artists end up fighting for their own songs? The answer is in the fine print. Learn the lines that protect you. Own your masters. Keep royalties. Keep playing shows without moving back in with Mom. Find out more →

This guide is for artists who want honesty wrapped in a hook. We will cover where to find story fuel, how to shape the arc, how to avoid tired clichés, and how to make tiny production choices that amplify meaning. You will get exercises that force you to stop being vague and start being cinematic. We speak like humans here. Expect jokes, brutal edits, and real life examples you can steal, remix, and sing in the shower.

Why songs about overcoming obstacles matter

People crave proof that struggle can lead somewhere. Songs are communal therapy. When you capture the exact itch someone has at three a.m. and then promise a scar and not neatness, listeners will hug the chorus like a life raft. Songs about overcoming obstacles turn personal pain into a shared myth. That makes your music sticky. That makes your fans feel less alone.

Real life example: a friend quits a job they hate and posts a TikTok of them dancing with a box. They need a soundtrack. Your song should be that soundtrack. It needs to be specific enough to feel true and flexible enough to fit multiple moments. That dual requirement is the creative job.

Pick the right emotional angle

Not every overcoming story is triumphant. There are shades and genres. Choose one before you write a single line.

  • Quiet recovery: small changes, like putting phone on do not disturb, that hint at long work. This suits indie and bedroom pop.
  • Angry emancipation: leaving a toxic situation with fury and swagger. This fits punk, rock, and pop anthems.
  • Slow acceptance: learning to carry a scar with dignity. This is good for R and B, singer songwriter styles, and ballads.
  • Victorious scoreboard: obvious win voice, big drums, triumphant chord changes. Use sparingly unless you actually climbed a mountain.

Choose one to anchor your language. If you mix all four, the song will sound confused. The angle decides diction, arrangement choices, and the chorus attitude. Imagine you are writing a note to a friend who just failed at something and you need to say one thing. That one thing becomes your chorus promise.

Define the chorus promise

Every great lyric about overcoming obstacles says one clear thing in the chorus. This is the promise that the song keeps for the listener. Keep it short and repeatable. Make sure it answers a basic question. What will the listener feel after the chorus?

Chorus promise examples

  • I survived and I am still laughing.
  • I will not let this break me again.
  • I learned how to breathe through the panic.
  • I walked away and that was my victory lap.

Turn that promise into a title whenever possible. Titles that capture the core promise help the chorus land on first listen. If the title is long use a shorter nickname for the hook. Short words with open vowels work best for singability.

Show, do not tell

This is the golden rule. Saying I am strong feels like a billboard. Showing strength through weird details feels like a confession you are allowed to repeat.

Before and after examples

Before: I am stronger now.

After: I swallowed the phone and left the charger where it could not find me. That detail tells the story without announcing it. It gives an image.

Use objects, small rituals, specific times, textures, and physical reactions. These create a scene the listener can step into. If a line could be a caption under a photo on Instagram the line is probably trying too hard. You want a line that is a camera shot in the middle of a movie.

Find the right POV and voice

POV stands for point of view. Point of view is who is speaking and how. Choose one and stay consistent. Changing POV without reason confuses listeners.

Learn How to Write a Song About Identity Crisis
Identity Crisis songs that really feel grounded yet cinematic, using hooks, prosody, and sharp hook focus.
You will learn

  • Pick the sharpest scene for feeling
  • Prosody that matches pulse
  • Hooks that distill the truth
  • Bridge turns that add perspective
  • Images over abstracts
  • Arrangements that support the story

Who it is for

  • Songwriters chasing honest, powerful emotion writing

What you get

  • Scene picker worksheet
  • Prosody checklist
  • Hook distiller
  • Arrangement cue map

  • First person: I, me, my. Confessional and intimate. Good for personal recovery stories.
  • Second person: you, your. Makes the listener feel spoken to. Great for empowerment anthems or letters to someone who hurt you.
  • Third person: she, he, they. Useful for storytelling and myth making. Allows distance and observation.

Voice is your attitude. Sarcastic, tender, bitter, relieved. If your verse voice is tender and your chorus voice is triumphant that contrast can work. Just be intentional about when you switch. Think of voice as the wardrobe for each section of the song.

Structure the song to show transformation

Overcoming an obstacle is a mini story. A simple structure helps listeners feel progress. Use a three act map inside your song.

Act one: setup

Introduce the problem in concrete terms. Two to three lines. Use a time crumb or a place crumb such as the couch with the dent of your sadness. Keep the melody low and the rhythm close to speech.

Act two: conflict and attempt

Describe the attempts, the fails, the small wins. This is where details compound. Use verse two to shift perspective or to show consequences. Pre chorus should ratchet tension or decision making. Make it feel like something is about to happen.

Keep Your Masters. Keep Your Money.

Find out how to avoid getting ripped off by Labels, Music Managers & "Friends".

You will learn

  • Spot red flags in seconds and say no with confidence
  • Negotiate rates, carve outs, and clean reversion language
  • Lock IDs so money finds you: ISRC, ISWC, UPC
  • Set manager commission on real net with a tail that sunsets
  • Protect credits, artwork, and creative edits with approvals
  • Control stems so they do not become unapproved remixes

Who it is for

  • Independent artists who want ownership and leverage
  • Signed artists who want clean approvals and real reporting
  • Producers and writers who want correct splits and points
  • Managers and small labels who need fast, clear language

What you get

  • 100 traps explained in plain English with fixes
  • Copy and paste clauses and email scripts that win
  • Split sheet template with CAE and IPI fields
  • Tour and merch math toolkit for caps and settlements
  • Neighboring rights and MLC steps to claim missing money

 

Act three: change and promise

The chorus resolves into the promise. The bridge can pull a new angle, reveal a secret, or show the cost of the change. The final chorus adds a new line or harmony to show growth. Do not tell us you are healed. Give us a changed behavior or a new image.

Write unforgettable first lines

The first line is the handshake. If it says nothing, listeners might hit skip. Start with a detail or a sound. Use a verb. Do not start with weather unless the weather is a metaphor with teeth.

Examples

  • The kettle clicked and I did not pick up.
  • There is a coin in my pocket I kept from the last time I stayed brave.
  • My roommate named the couch dent sorrow and it finally accepted the name.

Use metaphor with care

Metaphor is powerful. It gives the song a thematic spine. But overused metaphors feel like a motivational mug. Avoid the obvious mountains, storms, and phoenix shapes unless you have a surprising detail attached. The best metaphors are tactile and original.

Bad metaphor

Like a phoenix I rise

Learn How to Write a Song About Identity Crisis
Identity Crisis songs that really feel grounded yet cinematic, using hooks, prosody, and sharp hook focus.
You will learn

  • Pick the sharpest scene for feeling
  • Prosody that matches pulse
  • Hooks that distill the truth
  • Bridge turns that add perspective
  • Images over abstracts
  • Arrangements that support the story

Who it is for

  • Songwriters chasing honest, powerful emotion writing

What you get

  • Scene picker worksheet
  • Prosody checklist
  • Hook distiller
  • Arrangement cue map

Better metaphor

I burned the receipt and learned how to pay for air again

Replace cliché metaphors with specific, wired images. Think about smells and textures. Those hit the old parts of the brain that remembers fight or flight. That is where empathy lives.

Rhyme choices and lyrical rhythm

Rhyme is a tool not a trap. Perfect rhyme is fine for choruses. In verses mix perfect rhyme with family rhyme. Family rhyme means similar vowel or consonant sounds without being exact. This keeps the ear from feeling cheated and keeps your language modern.

Rhyme example

late, stay, afraid, plate. These share sonic families and can be used to create internal echo without predictable endings.

Rhythm matters. Prosody means how words fit music. Prosody is the match between natural speech stress and musical accent. Record yourself speaking the lines at normal speed. Circle the stressed words. Those stressed words must land on strong beats or long notes. If they do not rewrite the line or change the melody. The result will feel right without explanation.

Lyric devices that elevate struggle songs

Call back

Return to a striking line from verse one in the final chorus with one word changed. That small swap signals transformation without exposition. Listeners feel the continuity and the movement.

Image stacking

Stack three small images in a line that build in intensity. That creates a micro arc within a bar. Example: I keep the coffee black, the key on the shelf, and the photograph turned to the wall.

Ring phrase

Start and end the chorus with the same phrase. Ring phrases make hooks sticky. They act like memory anchors for live shows and for fan videos.

Time crumbs

Mentioning a time of day or a day such as midnight or Tuesday makes the moment feel real. It shows you were present in the story not just telling it from some future magazine feature.

Examples of lyrics about overcoming obstacles

Use these to learn the move. We will show rough lines and then tightened versions.

Theme: Leaving a toxic relationship

Before: I left you and I am better now.

After: I put your hoodie in the bathtub and ran hot water until the name last stuck like steam.

Theme: Battling anxiety

Before: I beat my anxiety today.

After: I sat through the elevator long enough to count the tiles and it did not swallow me.

Theme: Career failure and comeback

Before: I failed and then I succeeded.

After: The rejection email is taped to the wall and I use it as a target for my cheap paper airplanes.

How to avoid clichés and feel original

Clichés sneak in like free snacks. They are comfortable but they do not help you build a world. Here is a checklist for every lyric line.

  1. Is this line a weather metaphor with no extra detail. If yes make it physical or delete it.
  2. Could this be a tweet from anyone. If yes add a specific object, place, or name.
  3. Does the line explain emotion rather than show it. If yes swap abstract words for action verbs and items.
  4. Is the line making a moral claim about people. If yes replace with an image that implies moral movement.

If you catch yourself writing the word freedom or healing, ask what that looks like in your apartment at three a.m.

Hook writing for obstacle songs

The hook is the emotional elevator. It should do two things. Say the promise clearly and feel singable. Use repetitive devices and strong vowels. A hook for an overcoming song should not be pure triumph because real life is messy. Leave a trace of cost or memory in the final line to make the chorus feel earned.

Hook recipe

  1. State the promise in one short sentence.
  2. Repeat or paraphrase for emphasis.
  3. Add a small cost line to make it believable.

Example hook

I will stand in the sun and not apologize. I will stand in the sun. I left a little of you on the kitchen tile.

Topline and melody tips

If you write lyrics over a track, do a vowel pass. Improvise melodies on vowels and find the moments that want repetition. If you start with words, sing them on sustained vowels and mark where the mouth likes to stay. Your chorus should sit where the voice can carry with a small lift above the verses.

Melody diagnostics

  • Lift the chorus range by a third compared to the verse. That creates a sense of elevation.
  • Place the title on a long note or on a strong beat. That is where the ear anchors.
  • Use a leap into the chorus title then stepwise motion to resolve. The leap emphasizes intention. The steps win comfort.

Production choices that support the lyric

Sound choices can underline the theme without words. A drum loop with a low pulse suggests heartbeat. A dry vocal suggests intimacy. Wide reverb suggests release or catharsis. Use production to cue the emotional state not to explain it.

Examples

  • Quiet recovery: keep vocals close and dry with a soft piano and subtle strings on the chorus.
  • Angry emancipation: loud drums, distorted guitar, punchy vocal doubles on the hook.
  • Slow acceptance: sparse acoustic with a warm low synth that appears in the bridge to mark growth.

Collaborative writing prompts for this topic

Use these in sessions to generate lines fast and get into honest territory.

  • Object pass. Everyone names one object that represents the obstacle. Then write a line where the object acts. Example objects could be a cracked mug or a voicemail.
  • Failure list. In five minutes list five small humiliations that came from the problem. Turn one into a lyric. These are relatable because real life is messy.
  • Cost swap. Write a chorus that states the victory and then a second line that admits the cost. This makes your song true and avoiding empty triumph.

Editing checklist for raw lyrics

  1. Remove abstracts. Replace words like healing, freedom, and strong with one concrete image each.
  2. Simplify sentences. Make sure each line can be spoken plainly. If you cannot say it aloud without wincing rewrite it.
  3. Confirm prosody. Stress points match beats. If a strong word falls on a weak beat rewrite.
  4. Trim sugar. Delete interruptions that do not advance the scene. Each line should either add an image or move the story forward.
  5. Test the hook. Play it at 50 percent volume. If the melody carries the message alone you are close.

How to use your song in real life promotion

Songs about overcoming obstacles become content gold if you align their release with real stories. Consider short films, fan submissions, or user generated content prompts that ask listeners to share how they overcame something. That makes your song not just background music but a movement starter.

Example campaign idea

  1. Release an acoustic demo with a line in the caption that says tell us one tiny victory this week.
  2. Ask fans to post 10 second videos with that lyric as audio and a clip of their small victory.
  3. Compile the best ones into a montage for a live performance visual.

Practical lyric exercises you can do right now

The Two Minute Blowout

Set a timer for two minutes. Write a list of every embarrassing small consequence of your obstacle. No filter. After two minutes pick the strangest item and write a four line stanza where that item does something heroic. This forces imagery and humor into pain.

The Phone Trick

Open your phone photos. Pick the first image you see. Write a chorus that uses that image as the proof you overcame something. Specific photos tie songs to reality and force unexpected metaphors.

The Dialogue Drill

Write two lines as if you are texting someone you left. Make the tone either forgiving or savage. Then turn those two lines into the last two lines of the chorus and see how the song changes when the chorus speaks directly to a person.

Real life examples and case studies

Look at successful songs about overcoming obstacles. Each of them earns the feeling often by admitting cost or by being absurdly specific.

Case study 1: Song that whispers recovery

Notice how it uses small rituals like making coffee as markers of progress. The hook is soft but unwavering. It does not promise perfection. It promises another day.

Case study 2: Song that screams freedom

It uses big percussion and a repeated chant to replicate a crowd moving together. The chorus is short so it can be shouted. The bridge reveals why the chorus matters. That is what gives the chant weight.

Common mistakes when writing about overcoming obstacles

  • Victory too fast. If you feel healed in verse one people will not trust the arc. Show the wound first.
  • Too abstract. General statements create distance. Replace with objects and actions.
  • Messy POV. Changing narrators without clear purpose makes the story fuzzy.
  • Cliché metaphors. Mountains, phoenixes, storms. Use something specific instead.
  • No cost. If the chorus claims total victory with no cost the emotion rings false. A small admission of cost keeps it honest.

Release timing and storytelling arcs

Think about when to release this song. Songs that help people through summer breakups land in late spring and early summer. Songs about burnout land in autumn when workload hits hard. Timing your release to cultural rhythms amplifies resonance. Pair it with content that shows the writing process. Fans love when they can see the bruise behind the bandage.

How to pitch this song to playlists and editors

When pitching to playlists use a one sentence story hook about the song. Mention specific use cases such as recovery montages or scenes of leaving. Editors like specific sync opportunities. Provide three short cues where the song might be used in film or advertising. For example kitchen scene, final scene of a montage, or the credits of an uplifting short film. Keep your pitch human. Remember that a curator hears a thousand pitches. Give them a reason to imagine their audience with your song on repeat.

Action plan to finish a song about overcoming obstacles

  1. Write one sentence that states the chorus promise in plain speech. This is your compass.
  2. Choose your point of view and voice. Make a quick note describing attitude in three words.
  3. Draft verse one with two specific images and one time crumb.
  4. Draft pre chorus to increase motion without saying the title.
  5. Write the chorus using the chorus promise. Add one cost line to make it believable.
  6. Write verse two with escalation. Use a callback to an image from verse one but change it to show movement.
  7. Draft a bridge that offers a small reveal or an admission. Keep it short.
  8. Edit using the checklist. Replace abstractions, confirm prosody, and test the hook on pure vowels.
  9. Record a raw demo and test with three people who do not love you. Ask which line stuck. Fix the one that hurts clarity.

Lyric FAQ

How personal should I be when writing about overcoming obstacles

Be as personal as you can while remaining comfortable. Specific personal details create universality. If a full confession feels risky you can fictionalize certain names or locations while keeping the emotional truth. The thing that connects is sincerity, not the exact facts.

Can I write about other people overcoming obstacles

Yes. Third person can be a safe and effective way to explore the theme. It allows you to be an observer and to craft the arc with distance. Make sure the third person story still has sensory details that make it feel lived in.

How do I keep the chorus from sounding preachy

Include a cost line or a small bruise in the chorus. That keeps the chorus from sounding like a poster. Use rhythms that feel human and avoid moralizing language. Your job is to offer company more than life coaching.

What if I do not want a triumphant ending

Not all overcoming ends with fireworks. Songs that land in acceptance or steady improvement are powerful. You can end with a line that suggests ongoing work instead of final victory. That can actually feel more honest and more resonant for many listeners.

How can I make this song work live

Build a moment for the audience to participate. Keep the chorus short, repeatable, and anthemic enough for a crowd to sing along. Use a call and response or a ring phrase that the crowd can chant. Live performances are where songs about overcoming truly transform into community rituals.

Learn How to Write a Song About Identity Crisis
Identity Crisis songs that really feel grounded yet cinematic, using hooks, prosody, and sharp hook focus.
You will learn

  • Pick the sharpest scene for feeling
  • Prosody that matches pulse
  • Hooks that distill the truth
  • Bridge turns that add perspective
  • Images over abstracts
  • Arrangements that support the story

Who it is for

  • Songwriters chasing honest, powerful emotion writing

What you get

  • Scene picker worksheet
  • Prosody checklist
  • Hook distiller
  • Arrangement cue map


HOOK CHORUS & TOPLINE SCIENCE

MUSIC THEORY FOR NON-THEORY PEOPLE

RECORDING & PRODUCTION FOR SONGWRITERS

Release-ready records from bedrooms: signal flow, vocal comping, arrangement drops, tasteful stacks, smart metadata, budget tricks included.

Popular Articles

Demo to Release: Minimal gear maximal impact
Vocal Producing 101 (comping doubles ad-libs)
Writing with Loops & Samples (legal basics sample packs)
Arrangement Moves that make choruses explode
Making Sync-Friendly Versions (alt mixes clean edits)

MUSIC BUSINESS BASICS

CAREER & NETWORKING

Pitch professionally, vet managers, decode A&R, build tiny-mighty teams, follow up gracefully, and book meaningful opportunities consistently.

Popular Articles

How to Find a Manager (and not get finessed)
A&R Explained: What they scout how to pitch
Query Emails that get reads (templates teardown)
Playlisting 2025: Editorial vs algorithmic vs user lists
Building Your Creative Team (producer mixer publicist)

MONEY & MONETIZATION

TOOLS WORKFLOWS & CHECKLISTS

Plug-and-play templates, surveys, finish checklists, release sheets, day planners, prompt banks, less chaos, more shipped songs every week.

Popular Articles

The Song Finishing Checklist (printable)
Pre-Session Survey for Co-Writes (expectations & splits)
Lyric Editing Checklist (clarity imagery cadence)
Demo in a Day schedule (timed blocks + prompts)

Get Contact Details of Music Industry Gatekeepers

Looking for an A&R, Manager or Record Label to skyrocket your music career?

Don’t wait to be discovered, take full control of your music career. Get access to the contact details of the gatekeepers of the music industry. We're talking email addresses, contact numbers, social media...

Packed with contact details for over 3,000 of the top Music Managers, A&Rs, Booking Agents & Record Label Executives.

Get exclusive access today, take control of your music journey and skyrocket your music career.

author-avatar

About Toni Mercia

Toni Mercia is a Grammy award-winning songwriter and the founder of Lyric Assistant. With over 15 years of experience in the music industry, Toni has written hit songs for some of the biggest names in music. She has a passion for helping aspiring songwriters unlock their creativity and take their craft to the next level. Through Lyric Assistant, Toni has created a tool that empowers songwriters to make great lyrics and turn their musical dreams into reality.